Oh, the Valentines! It’s one of those days making single people nervous and anxious, thinking “When can I find my valentine?!” “All I need is just one, but where?”
Searched for “How to make yourself attractive” today and found this one: 23 Subtle Ways to Make Yourself More Attractive. The first is adding a red accent to the attire. This one applies to both sexes, unless of course everyone in the room is wearing red.
The second is whiten teeth. The third is sporting a new hairstyle. The fourth is to be with some friends. Yeah, when I was in the college I felt it was easy to find a date, although that’s probably more because we were all students and could easily relate to each other. The fifth is showing kindness.
The sixth is telling others how you feel (happy, sad, stressed). This is my weakness. I usually don’t want to talk about myself and would want to know others. The good news is that I have fully realized the problem and believe I can fix it easily. The way I look at now: It’s really about fairness. It’s not faire to just asking others questions without introducing yourself.
I know there are people living under the same roof may be for 20 years and never really exchanged feelings. That’s miserable. Sharing and exchanging feelings can suddenly draw people much closer. So it is never how long you know someone, but how deep and how often you share feelings.
The seventh is to fit in the environment and go with the flow in dressing. This I am aware of and lately I found myself more in hoodies and jeans to fit in the campus dressing code.
The eighth is upgrade your denim, the ninth is uncross your arms, and the tenth is upgrade eyeglasses to the rimless. The 11th is to pick a good perfume or cologne that fits you. I used to like the “CK One” a lot, although I have not wear any cologne at all lately. It’s optional accessory.
The 12th is making eye contact, which is only natural. Imagine you talk to someone and his or her eyes do not even look at you, that would be weird, right? The 13th is to have a pet, I am definitely a dog person, not for cat.
The 14th is grooming eyebrows, the 15th is skincare, the 16th is mascara, the 17th is colorful makeup; the 18th is skip shaving, as girls like men hairs; the 19th is body hair and 20th is long legs add scores for attractiveness; the 21st is sunless tan; the 22nd is tilt head slightly to make it looking more attractive and finally, the 23rd is smiling. To me this is more basic, lowest cost and universally efficient way to increase attractiveness. Unfortunately not everyone knows how and when to smile.
I would add one more thing: Asking names and then the next time you can call her name, which would suddenly draw yourself much closer to her. But I have been lousy on this, as I am worrying about not remembering names but so what? Just ask again and people will understand. I must fix this.
This is another article on increasing attractiveness. Unlike the one above, this one is more psychological than physical, but we obviously need both. I will pick up just one thing I think important: Being an obvious flirter. This is not my style as I tend to move slow and try to act naturally and normally rather than too obviously. But sometimes I may have overdone so the other side did not even recognize I was flirting! Not good. Being non-aggressive is one thing, failing to send the message across is another. Something I need to work on!
To sum up, on the Valentine I need to wear something red, whiten my teeth, put up a smile, not shaving, spray CK One cologne, stare at every pretty girl on the street, rent a dog, switch to a pair of rimless eyeglasses, tell every girl how sad I am without a girlfriend, and make it obvious that I want to date her.
But seriously, being single sucks, and getting into a relationship is beautiful. My words to all the beautiful girls out there: Show yourself up, making yourself available and shake off the mindset like “I am beautiful, come to get me, or else it’s your loss!” Be a partner with men in this beautiful game of our lives!